Confirming your pregnancy is your best first step to telling your boyfriend and family you are pregnant. If you are pregnant and did not plan to be, take a deep breath. You are empowered to tell people about your unexpected pregnancy on your time.
How To Tell Your Boyfriend and Family You Are Pregnant
If pregnancy isn’t something you feel ready for, especially if you’re a student, you might not be sure how your boyfriend or family will react. Will they be upset? Stressed? Scared?
Perhaps you’ve already made a decision about parenting, abortion, or adoption, and you don’t think they will support it. Or maybe you’re still exploring your possibilities and feeling overwhelmed about the whole thing, and you want their help as soon as possible to start sorting things out.
No matter your situation, here are a few steps you’ll want to consider.
1. Confirm Your Pregnancy.
Before breaking the news, you will want to confirm you are pregnant. It’s possible for home pregnancy tests to give inaccurate results, or for complications in pregnancy to occur so early that you no longer have a progressing pregnancy even after a positive home test.
At Robbinsdale Women’s Center, we provide lab-quality pregnancy tests and ultrasounds at no cost. This way, you can be fully informed about the status of your pregnancy.
2. Give Yourself Time.
If your pregnancy is confirmed, don’t feel like you have to announce it to your partner and family right away. You may want to give yourself time to process the news on your own first. You are facing something significant in your life, and it’s okay if you need some time to feel a wide range of emotions.
Talking with someone can help. Our client advocates are available to listen in a confidential, supportive setting.
3. Prepare Yourself Mentally and Emotionally.
Even if your relationships are healthy, know that your boyfriend and family may respond differently from how you expect. It’s likely that they will experience a wide range of emotions just like you, and they may want to go for a walk or a drive alone to process their initial feelings.
Our staff is experienced in working with guys and couples who are affected by unexpected pregnancies. If your boyfriend could use support, let him know we’re here for both of you, too.
What If We Don’t Agree on What To Do?
It’s possible that you, your boyfriend, and your family may all have different ideas about what the future should look like. Communication is important. It’s also important to know that ultimately, no one should pressure you into a pregnancy decision.
A Note on Safety
Make sure you are safe. If you feel unsafe or scared of what your partner will do if he finds out you are pregnant, contact the Domestic Violence Hotline. You deserve love and respect at all times.
No-Cost Support in Minneapolis
As you’re considering how to talk with your boyfriend and family about your unexpected pregnancy, please know that we are here for you every step of the way. Start by making a no-cost, confidential appointment today.